As I woke up this morning, I was thinking of what to write. Hmm… well, might as well share something that will benefit all couples out there.
Glen and I had a whirlwind romance before we got married in 2012. Some even doubted that we would last. As we all know, most of us say that you should take time to know someone before getting married. But how long does it take for us to know someone? I remember watching an old couple’s interview. They even said that after 25 years of being married, they are still surprised to find out something about their spouse.
Glen is older by 14 years but our age gap never became an issue. Actually, I am thankful for that. I can’t imagine marrying someone my age with my mood swings and pride ( yup, I whole heartedly admit that!). I am just glad that we both clicked and I can say we are compatible in so many ways.
If you’ll ask what’s our secret of being happy together, I’ll share you my own personal tips!
- Respect. We argue, discuss, debate. Luckily, we never had any serious topics (yet). You’ll actually laugh about it when you find out what we argued about. We even argue the smallest things like what to eat! But we never ever cuss at each other… never. We never say things that will totally hurt each other. We tried to fix things before going to sleep. Though I admit maybe there were 2 instances that I slept over it and it felt horrible.
- Another thing, I never check his phone. Well, it is maybe because we never had issues of hiding anything from each other. I even sometimes ask him to check my mail while I’m cooking or he even let me answer his phone while he’s doing something as well.
- We sometimes need some “me time” especially when I do my blog. We give each other some space like allowing each other to go out with friends and do our own thing.
- Love and Affection. Yes, show some love love love. In our 5 years of togetherness, we never fail to say the magic words — “I’m hungry” oops, I mean “I love you”. We always kiss good morning and good night and when he brings me to work. We give a lot of hugs and even hold hands when we walk. He even holds my hand while he’s driving. He sometimes surprise me with little things, like grabbing my favorite Lindt truffles or sending me some flowers to work. I also put a sweet note on his coffee cup as well.
- Fun. Make the marriage fun but inexpensive. We seldom eat in a fine dining restaurants however, we both love to stroll. Just driving along Las Vegas Strip while playing our favorite music makes us happy. We go to Red Rock or Lake Las Vegas and sometimes bring our dogs too. We enjoy eating ice cream or watching movies. We even just sometimes stay home and watch tv, play Jenga or Monopoly, cook together and clean the house together. I am not sure if this sounds fun to you but that’s how we are. Find something that you both really like doing.
- Communication. We talk about anything. How our day was, what we ate over lunch, work, politics, traffic, anything. We even talk about his crush, Jennifer Lopez and my crushes, Chris Hemsworth and Channing Tatum. Sometimes, when we lay to bed at night, I ask him to just not switch the tv on and we’ll talk some serious things like our finances, house hunting, having kids and if we had a little argument, we also just talk it over.
Every relationship is different, whether, you’ve met when you were 10, or just last night, the span is not important but compatibility is. With love, everything follows. From respect, happiness and contentment. Whether you eat on a fine dining everyday or just stay home all day, it doesn’t matter. What matters is you both are there for each other. Argument is the spice of married life, it is up to us if it will be just a spice or it will lament a scar forever.
As for me, I know I have married my best friend. We can be annoying each other sometimes but at the end of the day, I know we’re both grateful to have each other’s back. Feel free to share your married life and what’s your secret for a long and lasting relationship! ‘Til next time!